Anyways, I guess I should start in the beginning. Back in the summer of 2012 I read 50 shades of Grey by E.L.James. The book was everywhere among readers and non-readers alike. Seriously, it was the book talk of the year. It was the first time a lot of women picked up a book since high school and it was the first time some women read erotic fiction. Now as for me, well neither one of those statements were true. I never stopped reading nor was this my first erotic fiction novel. In all honesty I thought the book was just okay but I could see why some people loved it and why some people hated it.. But at least they read or partially read the book to form an opinion. Well, then came the 50 shades backlash especially once the movie was in production.
Here is the deal, I feel there are 3 types of people:
- Those who read 50 shades
- Those who have not read 50 shades
- Those who have not read 50 and must campaign against it with all their might. They need to let the world know they will not read or watch the 50 shades movie. They must also let the world know all their reasons as well.
- 50 shades of Grey does not represent the true meaning of the BDSM lifestyle. I agree it doesn't but was it suppose to? Was Ana ever a true submissive? The first half of the book was just them getting to know each other then it got kinky. This book might have been the first time some people ever read about BDSM and hopefully if it did pique their interest they would do their research. This falls under the category that we are under the impression that all women are stupid. They can't separate fact from fiction.
- Christian Grey is pedophile. UHHH WHAT? Ana is 20 years and yes I'll admit extremely naive but she is not a child! Oh but wait. Christian calls her innocent and calls her baby. WTF? She was pretty innocent when it came to sex because she was in fact a virgin before she met him. Baby is also a very popular term to use with your significant other. I call my significant other baby everyday and trust me I know he's not a child.
- This book will confuse women that being in a controlling relationship is okay. Well I guess we are under the impression that all women yet again are stupid and by reading this one book they will jump into a relationship with a controlling billionaire man. Yes, I know there are a lot of women who are in controlling relationships but frankly I don't believe this book is gonna give them confirmation that its okay.
- 50 shades is porn in a book and its not real. DUH its an EROTIC NOVEL. Its fantasy. Its fiction. At no point was this based on true story.
5. 50 Shades is about rape and I heard that Ana is taken against her will.
Well I posted an image that I was seeing a lot on my newsfeed. Taken out of context, I would agree that it would seem that Chrisitan Grey was taking Ana against her will. This is type of misinformation that is floating by people who never read the book. Now lets look at in context. This is an excerpt from 50 shades of Grey by E.Ls. James.
"He reaches down, and from his pants pocket, he takes out his silver grey silk tie… that silver grey woven tie that leaves small impressions of its weave on my skin. He moves so quickly, sitting astride me as he fastens my wrists together, but this time, he ties the other end of the tie to one of the spokes of my white iron headboard. He pulls at my binding, checking it's secure. I'm not going anywhere. I'm tied, literally, to my bed, and I'm so aroused.
He slides off me and stands beside the bed, staring down at me, his eyes dark with want. His look is triumphant, mixed with relief.
"That's better," he murmurs and smiles a wicked, knowing smile. He bends and starts undoing one of my sneakers. Oh no… no… my feet. No. I've just been running.
"No," I protest, trying to kick him off.
"If you struggle, I'll tie your feet, too. If you make a noise, Anastasia, I will gag you. Keep quiet. Katherine is probably outside listening right now."
Gag me! Kate! I shut up.
How shall I fuck you, Anastasia?"
Oh… my body starts to quiver. He stills again. "Please."
"What do you want, Anastasia?"
"You… now," I cry.
"Shall I fuck you this way, or this way, or this way? There's an endless choice," he breathes against my lips. He withdraws his hand and reaches over to the bedside table for a foil packet. He kneels up between my legs, and very slowly he pulls my panties off, staring down at me, his eyes gleaming. He puts on the condom. I watch fascinated, mesmerized.
"How nice is this?" he says as he strokes himself.
"I meant it as a joke," I whimper. Please fuck me, Christian. He raises his eyebrows as his hand moves up and down his impressive length.
"A joke?" His voice is menacingly soft.
"Yes. Please, Christian," I beseech him.
"Are you laughing now?"
"No," I mewl.
I am just one ball of sexual, tense, need."
As you can read at no point was Ana taken against her will. She was enjoying it and she consented. I do not feel I read a book about rape. Nor do I condone it.
50 shades of Grey is a work of fiction and its fantasy. I ask those who are campaigning against the book/movie to ask your friends, who did enjoy the book the reasons why they did. Ask them if they were confused. Ask them why did they liked Christian Grey and do they want a guy just like him. I bet they will tell you the truth and I bet they understand that its not real.